As moms, we all feel pressure. We feel stressed to be the perfect mom. One who plays with her kids. One who makes meals from scratch. One who makes fun crafts. One who keeps a clean house. And that’s just the basics.
But the truth is we can’t do it all. Deep down we know we can’t, but we still try.
And we fail.
And we feel inadequate.
Social media can be helpful. There are many posts reminding us that it’s hard to be a mom and that’s ok. There are articles written about how we don’t have to be supermoms.
But there are also posts about moms who seem to do it all.
And we have to remember that pictures can lie.
The bottom line is, we can’t nor should we do it all. And we’ve got to stop comparing ourselves to others.
This is the single worst thing you can do as a mom.
It’s easy to feel inadequate when you see your friend and her toddler out looking like fashion divas when you are still in the Lululemons you gave birth in BUT you have no clue what her house looks like.
It’s easy to feel inadequate when you go to your friends house and it is pristinely clean while yours is full of unfolded laundry, toys and dishes BUT perhaps she doesn’t have the time to cook meals from scratch.
It’s easy to feel inadequate as you open a wrapper to a cereal bar while your friend offers her child a homemade sugarless muffin BUT maybe she doesn’t have as much time to play with her children.
It’s easy to feel inadequate when you see weekly posts of the crafts your friend makes with her kids while you plop them in front of the television BUT maybe she is behind on her banking and other paperwork.
We don’t know what goes on behind the scenes. We only know what we can see and it’s easy to idealize what we see, compare ourselves and feel like we come up short as moms.
We all have strengths. And we all have weaknesses. Focus on your strengths and don’t worry about your weaknesses. Just do the best you can. That’s all your children want. Because to your children, you’re perfect.