The Mommy Effect is real. My husband, for a long time – until we had a second child – denied its existence. He has since come around. He now can see what all mothers have always seen. The aura that mothers emit, throwing their offspring into a tizzy with their mere presence — The Mommy Effect.
The Mommy Effect is best explained by example.
Case 1: Dinner Time
Mommy isn’t home from work yet. Daddy is in the kitchen whipping up dinner. The kids are playing quietly nearby. The older one is building a ramp for his cars and the younger one is calmly threading some beads onto a string. Everyone is happy.
Enter mommy — home from work. Instantaneously – shrieks and tears erupt. Both children must hug mommy simultaneously. Both children must be touching mommy at all moments for the next 20 minutes. Children are crying in her face, grabbing at her shirt, screaming vital information like “Daddy gave us chocolate”.
Daddy is not home from work yet. Mommy is whipping up dinner with a toddler in one arm and the older child standing on a chair in the kitchen “helping”. Both children simultaneously need her attention at every moment, “Mommy. Mommy. Mommy. Mommy. I need to eat some sugar from the bowl.” The older child suddenly needs to give mommy 24 kisses and needs to have a piggy back to do so. Putting the youngest down results in an immediate cling-to-the-leg with accompanying whine.
Daddy gets home and wonders why there is so much chaos.
Case 2: I Need Milk
Mommy is wiping down the coffee table and scheduling an appointment on the phone while carrying a toddler. Daddy is in the kitchen, at the fridge pondering snack possibilities. Preschooler runs from his spot beside Daddy all the way to Mommy and says “Mommmmmmmmy, I need milk”. Clearly Daddy doesn’t have the superpowers needed to procure milk.
Daddy is working on the computer. Preschooler is thirsty. He pushes chair to cupboard and then to the fridge to get the milk and pours himself a glass.
Case 3: Sickness
Sick toddler spends week at home and not in preschool. During Daddy’s shift, Daddy and Toddler sit side-by-side and watch Aladdin. Father-son bonding.
During Mommy’s watch, Toddler must be laying on Mommy, or nursing, or trying to nurse while craning neck to watch TV. Or removing mommy’s glasses. In a test sequence, during the 5 minutes that Daddy wore said glasses, no attempts at removal were made.
The Mommy Effect. It’s real. Ask your mother. Or wife.
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